(The following content may not be suitable for viewers under 15.)
(Viewer discretion is advised.)
We will counsel you on your unspeakable concerns.
- National Competition on Worries! - National Competition on Worries!
Let me introduce you to our today's guests.
We haven't seen him for a long time.
Jung Jae Yong of DJ DOC.
Hello. Hello.
Everyone likes this group regardless of gender and age.
Solar, Hwa Sa, Whee In, Moon Byul of MAMAMOO.
We haven't seen Jae Yong for a really long time.
- Right. - Since I appeared on "Win Win"...
- Sorry? - That was so long ago.
This is your first time on Hello, right?
- Yes, it's my first time. - Is it?
However, we've been seeing him on another show.
- On "I Am a Natural Person." - That's not me.
- He's Yoon Taek. - I see.
(Oh, him?)
They look so much alike. I was surprised.
Did you perm your hair? Or...
- Yes, I did. - Of course he did.
- I permed my hair. - The curl seems tight.
There are cookies and everything in his hair.
I see.
He also looks like a primitive man.
Our guests share their worries here.
Jae Yong, you have a lot of worries, don't you?
- Does he seem like he does? - I think he does.
My mom often tells me to get married soon.
Do you not date... Don't you have any chances to meet anyone?
- No. I'm seeing someone. - You have a girlfriend?
- You have a girlfriend? - He's wearing a ring.
- Yes, I am. - Is that a lovers' ring?
A lovers' ring?
Don't you two have a plan? You can just marry her.
I asked her to marry me.
- What was her answer? - I'm not sure if we'll get married.
- What did your girlfriend say? - When did you propose to her?
- We're in an ongoing relationship. - When did you ask her to marry you?
(Sighing)
You didn't know it'd get so complicated, right?
Does she also think of you as her boyfriend?
I'm worried if he's deluded.
That's possible.
(We're just worried about you.)
It's been 25 years since DJ DOC made their début.
That's a long time.
MAMAMOO, didn't you listen to DJ DOC's songs as a child?
(Time is cruel.)
- Yes. - Yes.
Since they have so many hit songs,
I often listened to their songs as I grew up.
- MAMAMOO's concerts are great. - Absolutely.
Seeing that you're here, I assume you'll release a new song. Right?
- Yes. - Yes.
Right.
It was a coincidence. Their new song will be released...
a few days after this episode airs.
(Their new song will be released on March 7.)
Can you sing a little for us?
Because it hasn't been released,
they will sing just a little bit as a teaser.
- Sing just a little bit for us. - Just a little bit.
- Right. - Is it okay...
- to sing it here? - "On a starry night".
What are you guys talking about?
- We discussed which part to sing. - I thought you were saying,
"That's so annoying. Why would they make us sing it?"
- No, we didn't. - That's not the case.
1, 2, 3.
On a starry night
Thank you. That's all.
- That was great. - They're so good.
It seems like they're always happy.
- Do you have any worries? - But they must have worries.
Since we're always seen to the public,
we think of how to lose weight.
We have a lot of things like that to think about.
- So we have a lot of worries. - Jae Yong, why did you laugh?
- She talked about losing weight. - Why did you laugh?
(It was a reflex.)
I can't relate to that at all.
Today, we have three stories as always.
Show us the keywords please.
(The keywords are revealed.)
- "Live Your Life As You Want". - "A Daughter-In-Law's Disclosure".
"The Ruinous Love".
I'm worried how she'll deal with the consequences.
Hello.
I'm a married woman in my 30s.
I live in Gumi, North Gyeongsang Province.
I mustered up courage to report someone.
She is my mother-in-law.
My goodness. It's her mother-in-law?
- Exactly. - Gosh.
"Mother, your meal is ready."
"Mother, won't you eat?"
Whenever I visit my parents-in-law, my mother-in-law...
stays in her room all day long.
I'm not sure if I should say this,
but my mother-in-law who is 69...
- is an addict. - What?
- She has a video game addiction. - What?
At the age of 69?
"Mother, it's 2am."
- "Please stop playing games," - 2am?
"and get some rest now."
- "I can't. Today is an event day." - She really is addicted.
"I have to wait."
"Today is an event day."
"I got it! I got it!"
"I got a jewellery item on the almighty level."
"This is worth 100,000 dollars. I'm so happy."
On an event day, she doesn't...
- even eat food or sleep at night. - I think she plays go-stop.
"My back hurts. Oh, dear."
"My eyes are bleary. I can't see clearly."
It's tiring even for a young person to play games all night long.
My mother-in-law will turn 70 next year.
It must be even more tiring for her.
Please help me stop her from playing video games.
(Please stop my mother-in-law from playing video games.)
That's hard to believe.
Which of you likes video games the most?
- She likes playing video games. - Moon Byul?
Moon Byul, what does an event day mean?
The video game companies offer special gifts on different days.
- Game items? - Yes, they offer different items.
However, they don't just give you the items.
You get items through mini games.
She got an item that's worth 100,000 dollars.
- Is it worth 100,000 dollars? - It's a video game currency.
- It's worth that much. - Yes.
We haven't met an expert for a while.
Let's meet our guest. Please come out.
(Whose mother-in-law is addicted to video games?)
Hello, Hello
(Ha So Young)
(Hello, Hello)
How do you feel now that you've seen celebrities?
My heart is fluttering.
Who makes your heart flutter the most?
- I'm a huge fan of Dong Yeob's. - I see.
I am Shin Dong Yeob.
- I'm nervous. - I understand.
When we read your letter,
we thought you might've exaggerated the story.
First of all, my mother-in-law is 69.
She'll turn 70 next year.
However, she's been playing the same game...
for the past 15 years.
- For 15 years? - The same game?
- Only one game? - Yes.
Does she pay a fixed monthly fee or play a free game?
She never spends real money on online games.
She doesn't spend money?
- I see. - She works harder to get items.
(What is she talking about?)
What does that mean...
- To get equipment... - I don't understand what it means.
Please explain details to us more easily.
When I just started dating my husband,
I went to his house one day.
I opened the door and saw three computers in that room.
(There were three computers in the room.)
I thought my husband was addicted to video games.
- Of course you did. - I asked him...
if he was a video game addict.
It turned out that the computers belonged to my mother-in-law.
There was a notebook on the desk.
So I took a quick look.
I saw "500,000 dollars, 1 million dollars, gold" written on it.
I thought, "Gosh. He must be so rich."
That's understandable.
It looked like some kind of ledger.
I really thought so because I had no idea...
that my mother-in-law liked playing video games.
Later, I found out...
that she had several notebooks where she wrote down the items.
She wrote down how to sign in the game website,
her ID and password, equipment types, and how to create them.
I don't even know what they are. She wrote down every detail.
- She wrote down everything? - Yes.
I think she's fabulous. Why are you worried about her?
I agree with him.
- I also thought so at first. - She's just relatively old.
I visit her to her house quite often.
Whenever I go there, she says hi to me while playing the game.
She always shows me only the back of her.
- Especially... - Event days.
On an event day, she stays up all night.
Game events take place on holidays, Christmas Day,
New Year's Day, and at the year end.
On special days.
On every event day, she stays up all night...
while playing the game. She only takes catnaps.
- My goodness. - She only sleeps for 1 or 2 hours.
- She sounds very healthy. - Right.
To play video games...
I think that's the biggest problem. Since she's an elderly woman,
she's not in perfect health condition.
She had major disc surgery four years ago.
- She shouldn't sit for long. - That's right.
That's the worst for disc patients.
She's been suffering from neck pain for a long time,
- so she... - She plays a game very often.
- puts a massage pack. - The forward head posture.
- She also had bleary eyes. - She should stop it.
She even had a cataract surgery.
- She had a cataract surgery? - Yes.
Despite all that, she's been playing a video game...
while sitting in the same place for a really long time for 15 years.
Have you ever tried anything to stop her from playing games?
Yes. My father-in-law...
- You know the fuse box, right? - Yes.
- Does he trip the circuit breaker? - Yes.
He does that so often.
He could have a fight with his wife.
That's too much. He can just turn off her computer,
but he shuts off the power...
- to the entire house. - That's right.
Let's meet her mother-in-law.
Hello.
- Welcome. - Hello.
(Who is the video game addict?)
Your daughter-in-law sent us your story as she was worried about you.
How do you feel about that?
I understand why she's worried.
- You do? - Do you admit it?
Yes. I also...
don't understand why I play a video game so often.
I think I should stop it,
but I find myself in front of my computer before even I notice it.
Ma'am, you're awesome and super cool.
(He compliments her in the way teens do.)
Awesome!
What was the longest time you've spent...
playing a game in one day?
I once calculated how much time I spent on a video game,
and I played the game for 17 hours in a row.
- For 17 hours? - I sat in the same place.
How did you get hooked on the video game?
People don't usually get hooked on video game at your age.
In fact, my daughter came over to my house one day.
I saw her playing a video game on my son's computer.
I watched her playing the game, and it looked fun.
At first, I learned how to do it...
to have some fun.
What exactly is the game you play?
It's very different from 3D games that many people play.
However, I like the game story.
Realistic things happen in that virtual place.
- You get married and have kids. - I think I know what game it is.
- Go hunting too. - You can also level up...
to go around with your kids for hunting.
- When your kid... - It sounds fun.
fails in hunting and drop all the items,
I can take all of the items.
(It feels so good when I take items.)
In that case, are you married...
in the game you play?
I got married three times.
(She's such a romanticist.)
That's why she plays that game.
- Ma'am. - That's why.
Do you use it as an escape from reality?
- I have three different characters. - I see.
Each of them got married.
- How many children do you have? - Does that mean...
- Can you... - I have three kids.
Can you get married and get divorced in the game?
One of my characters got divorced.
(I'll do whatever I want.)
Ma'am.
Why did you divorce him?
What was the reason?
It didn't work out well.
I was afraid he might hack my computer.
So I divorced him.
Your husband in the game.
Have you met him in real life?
- My son-in-law in real life... - She's hilarious.
is my husband in the game.
(Her son-in-law is her husband in the game.)
Ma'am, that's so weird.
I understand why her husband shut off the power.
"How dare you got married three times?"
Isn't that why you play the game?
That's one of the fun facts.
If you join a clan,
there's a clan leader, and you get notifications.
It tells you the time and place for a meeting,
and then, all the clan members gather for the meeting.
Everyone sits down,
and I tell them...
my name and age and where I live.
"It's so nice to meet you all."
- Doesn't it surprise them? - They welcome me...
while clapping.
It feels like I can actually hear them clap for me.
They're welcoming you.
They write it down in a chat room.
- That's right. - I feel like I can hear it.
You said she has three computers.
Does she use all of them?
I don't usually use all the three of them.
I only do that on event days.
- What did she say? - Only on event days?
- This is how I use all of them. - She has to get items.
I cross my arms like this to use them at the same time.
- Like that? - That's great.
(She's like a master of using a computer keyboard.)
That's great.
(Like this?)
- We also have meetings too. - What do you mean?
- In real life. - You meet in real life too?
- Yes, in real life. - You've met them?
I've been to 4 or 5 meetings.
All the others are in their 20s or 30s.
- Of course. - But...
it didn't feel awkward at all when we met for the first time.
The leader of the group used to run a small business.
And he paid for everything when we met.
The other members can have a fun evening for 20 dollars.
Do you take your husband to those meetings?
No.
(Baffled)
- He can't go. - My goodness.
I've been begging him to join me, but he won't listen.
The more I hear,
the better I understand why your husband turned off the electricity.
What do they call you when you meet in real life?
My username is Jackpot.
- Jackpot? - We asked Ms. Ha...
to film her mother-in-law playing a game.
Let's see it.
(Shocked)
She's so cool.
It looks like an internet café.
It looks almost like an internet café.
She's so cool.
She's amazing.
Work hard.
(Immersed)
She looks like a technician.
(Amazing skills)
Incredible.
She's working.
Oh, my.
- My goodness. - The game is being played.
My goodness.
It's unbelievable.
(Her passion shows.)
It might her way of living a fun life.
But your daughter-in-law is worried...
because you had a cataract operation...
- and you have back pain too. - Back pain.
I have pain from head to toe.
From head to toe?
Then you should play less games.
I know I should stop, but it's not easy...
to do that.
Try and see for yourself.
(You'll see.)
Don't say that.
Why is it so fun to play games?
- What makes you so happy? - In the game word,
I can sell my items...
- for 4 to 5 million dollars. - 4 to 5 million?
Once, I lost 4 million dollars and then got it back.
In real life, I've never had 4 or 5 million dollars.
Right?
But I have that money in the game world.
It gives me such satisfaction.
- Satisfaction. - Ma'am.
You said you once lost 4 million dollars.
- How did you feel? - I even went to the police station.
I requested a cyber investigation.
- A cyber investigation? - Yes.
A cyber investigation.
You're not supposed to hit other characters.
If you do, you'll be downgraded...
and all your items will drop on the ground.
Then others can take them.
One guy was following me all day.
He begged me to hit him, saying he wants to see what happens.
He wouldn't let me go.
I thought it'd be okay if I hit him just slightly.
But then I lost all my items.
(All her items dropped.)
Please tell us how you felt.
It was a pure nightmare.
It was awful.
One of the players I've met in real life...
was a prosecutor.
He asked around and helped me get back an expensive sword.
- You got back a weapon. - In return,
I set him up with a woman.
- You set him up with someone? - Yes.
- How... - You have so many stories to tell.
In the game world...
I couldn't tell you everything within a day.
(A day is too short.)
She looks so excited.
- I am. - But her husband...
- looks more and more upset. - We should talk to him.
- Hello. - Hello.
You must be so concerned.
I must be the most concerned one.
As her health is not very good, I thought...
she'd quit soon.
But she completely went crazy.
She plays games day and night.
Our electricity bill is as high as 200 dollars.
I'm not sure if I should continue to live with her.
I've considered divorcing her many times.
Did you have to turn off the electricity, though?
I've done even worse things.
I smashed her computers once.
And she...
begged me crying,
- She begged? - so I bought her new ones.
- He smashed her computers. - There was no way to stop her.
How did you feel when he smashed your computers?
I went crazy.
- I went completely crazy. - Oh, my.
What do you think about your wife getting married three times...
and getting divorced once in the game?
I found out only today.
Also,
she got married to her son-in-law in the game.
Isn't that ridiculous?
- It's unbelievable. - Does she...
never cook for you?
When I ask her to cook, she won't even answer me.
She's just immersed in the game.
It was worse when I was still working.
I need to sleep and eat well,
but the computers made noises all night.
- It was driving me crazy. - Noises from the games.
She never cooks for me.
I have only instant noodles.
I can't stand it anymore.
Sometimes, I want to smash her computers again.
But I'm getting old,
so I'm just putting up with it.
Even if you smash them, you'll have to buy new ones.
Yes.
With my own money.
It's ridiculous.
Is the business going well? She had her computer in the kitchen.
She won't respond to customers.
She's occupied with her game.
(Noises)
It's so noisy.
And...
there was an event recently.
I kicked her out of the room,
and she played games in the cold hall all night.
In the restaurant hall.
- There was an event. - There was an event.
It was a cold day.
Most of all, I'm worried about her health.
- Exactly. - I want to live happily.
(Her family is concerned about her health.)
- Let's meet their son. - He looks a lot like his parents.
It's been too long, so I've given up on her.
One thing I'm unhappy about is that Mom is indifferent to her family.
Did your husband injure his leg?
Yes, he had a fracture operation.
I injured my leg recently.
I have six pins in my bones now.
- It sounds serious. - It must have been bad.
I had an operation in January, and only Dad came.
- Mom didn't come. - Oh, my.
There was an event around that time.
On your operation day?
Yes. There are many events in the beginning of the year.
- You must have been hurt. - Ma'am.
You not being there wouldn't have affected the operation result,
but your son must have been hurt.
They put pins in his leg.
As long as he recovers,
there's no problem.
There would be more events in the future too.
It was an emergency.
He won't have another operation either.
I went on the last day.
- All right. - She came with her laptop...
saying her desktop is broke down.
- She is addicted. - She is addicted.
(She asked her injured son to fix her computer.)
How do you feel when your computer breaks down?
- Do you become anxious? - My heart races,
and I become restless.
That's why she calls you, right?
Yes. It was a few days after the wedding,
I think it was around 6 or 7am.
Our doorbell rang.
I thought it was a salesperson, so I went back to sleep.
But the doorbell kept ringing. When I checked the monitor,
- It was your mother-in-law. - I saw my mother-in-law.
Surprised, I opened the door.
She brought something covered in cloth.
It was her laptop.
- So early. - It had broken down.
My husband fixed it.
My mother-in-law played games and slept at our place.
It sounds like she is addicted.
- She is. - I mean...
you don't usually visit your son when he's just gotten married.
- So early in the morning. - At 6am.
Don't you think it was too much? Imagine your mother-in-law did that.
It was too much.
- She admits it. - It didn't occur to you?
- She's incredible. - I know it was too much.
Do you think I don't know it's wrong?
I know what I'm doing is wrong. I know I'm crazy.
I know I'm not in my right mind.
But I can't control myself.
All of this started, as she said,
- because of her daughter. - Her daughter.
- If she hadn't taught her mom... - Exactly.
How do you feel right now?
I never imagined my mom would...
- become addicted. - Of course not.
I regret it a lot now.
My son is in 12th grade.
12th grade?
Mom calls him even when he is in class.
She asks him to remove viruses...
and fix her computers.
I don't know what to do.
It's a really difficult situation.
Is your grandma giving you a hard time?
Yes. The thing is...
He answered so fast.
As if he had been waiting.
Once, I had to use the computer in the room.
My grandma said, "No. Don't come in!"
She locked the door, gave me money,
and told me to go to an internet café instead.
(Do your homework at an internet café.)
As her daughter,
can't you talk to her?
I've tried everything to persuade her,
but nothing worked. Games are not...
- always bad. - Of course not.
It distracts you.
You don't have to think about anything else.
It helps you forget about things that bother you.
I had a miscarriage...
and ended up depressed.
Did you overcome it by playing games?
Yes, playing games helped.
My mom's business...
was doing very poorly at that time.
So she was avoiding people and suffering from depression too.
She struggled a lot.
I suggested the game to my mom...
- with good intention... - That's right.
so that should would get some comfort.
You didn't know it would go on for 15 years.
No.
When you started to play the game for the first time,
- you were struggling. - I was struggling a lot.
As an employee of Daeshin Life Insurance,
I was moving up the ladder.
At first, I won Bronze Award. Then I won Silver Award.
After winning the award four times,
I couldn't help but aim for Grand Award.
The recipient of Grand Award dressed like a queen...
- and acquired followers. - The best insurance sales agent.
- The best insurance sales agent. - The best insurance sales agent.
- The best insurance sales agent. - I had moved up from the bottom...
and won Silver Award.
When I saw the recipient of Grand Award,
I knew I had to win that award.
It was the time of IMF Crisis.
- IMF Crisis. - I never suffered from it.
I was incredibly successful.
- Then what happened? - After I won Grand Award,
I fell for pyramid schemes.
You were doing well in life insurance company.
I was doing well. I made 10,000 or 20,000 dollars a month.
My annual salary was 140,000 or 150,000 dollars.
Today's equivalent would be...
- 300,000 or 400,000 dollars. - Yes.
The new company seemed to be more successful.
I did well at first, but it was a pyramid scheme.
- I most all of my money. - That's how it always goes.
That's right.
(She became addicted to game to forget the pain.)
That explains why her ID is Jackpot.
You began to play the game upon your daughter's suggestion.
Did it comfort you?
Back then, I couldn't talk when I met people.
People asked what I was up to, but I was only lazing around.
- It hurt your pride. - I didn't want to meet people.
I developed sociophobia and depression.
Ma'am. What do you think will happen if this game disappears?
I don't know.
- She is in tears. - The idea upsets her.
(The idea upsets her.)
(She knows her current state, but can't break free from the game.)
- She can't live without it. - I don't know what will happen.
However, when I play the game, my mind goes blank.
All thoughts disappear...
- from my mind. - I understand.
It gives me comfort. That's how I came this far.
(That's how I came this far.)
Ma'am,
I understand how you feel.
I understand too.
Ma'am,
- I understand how you feel. - My goodness.
It seems like both of us understand.
Did you shed tears...
because you are upset about your game addiction?
Did you shed tear because of the sad memories?
I remembered the past.
I also can't believe...
I have to talk about this on TV.
I feel sorry for my children...
- and husband. - You can change.
(Please use this opportunity to overcome your addiction.)
You should think about...
how lonely your husband must be.
Have the two of you held hands recently?
Have the two of you gone somewhere...
or had a conversation?
- No. - No? Sir.
- Have you held her hands? - No.
- What? - No.
- It didn't happen recently. - No.
When was the last time you held her hands?
Did it happen before you broke the computer?
(An unexpected physical contact)
I only held her hands...
to make her stop playing the game.
The two of you held hands during a fight.
(Ta-da)
She probably tried to break free.
Ma'am, you and the entire family should make an effort...
to plan a better future.
That's why So Young sent the worry.
What worries you the most?
What makes you think, "This can't go on"?
Since she is on the older side, I am worried about her health.
Last year, she was playing the game all night long.
She tried to shred cabbage at the same time...
and ended up cutting her little finger.
I went to the emergency room with her.
We stayed at the emergency room for hours...
because the bleeding wouldn't stop.
However, she played the game again with her bandaged hand.
(She is addicted.)
There is a bigger problem.
She has had diabetes for 10 years.
She shouldn't be tired.
She alternates between hyperglycemia and hypoglycemia.
She sometimes faints due to hypoglycemia.
Despite that,
she takes her laptop to the hospital.
It's a serious problem.
(Everyone is incredulous.)
I developed diabetes in the 90s.
Even though I take medicine in the morning and at night,
my blood sugar stays between 200 and 300mg per deciliter.
It stays between 200 and 300mg per deciliter during the day,
but I get hypoglycemia around 3am or 4am.
- Of course. - When that happens,
I feel like I am dying.
Ma'am, in any case...
- you must... - I know.
You must know.
She knows everything.
You say you know.
Have you tried your hardest...
to stop playing the game?
- Have you tried? - Yes, I have.
What efforts did you make?
I didn't go near the computer room.
I went out more.
Now, I don't even go out for meetings.
I am more absorbed in playing the game these days.
Do you want to stop playing the game?
- Do you want to stop? - I do want to stop.
Ask your family for help.
I think the family is tired.
- Here is what I think. - Tell her that you will help.
- Here is what I think. - She doesn't mean it.
I don't think you should give up 100 percent.
If you do that, you will become sad.
You should play game in moderation.
Don't play it excessively. Just enjoy it in moderation.
It's hard to be objective about yourself.
Even the best golfers in the world...
keep coaches...
who can't golf as well as them...
to figure out what they are doing wrong.
When this episode airs,
please study your words and facial expressions...
as well as your family's facial expressions.
"It's time I make a resolution."
Please give it thoughts when you watch the episode.
Please say a few words to your mother-in-law.
I won't tell her to stop playing game.
When you play game, please think about your health...
and refrain from staying up even if there is an event.
I am worried about your health.
Please take care of your health.
Let's start with Jung Jae Yong.
Please look into other games...
that can be enjoyed in a short amount of time...
since you like playing game.
I think it's a worry.
You think it's a worry.
I also think it's a worry.
Please try harder...
and play game only during the allotted time.
Then you will live in harmony with your family.
I don't think it's a worry.
While it's troubling that she is absorbed in a game,
I believe she is a strong woman.
- She will be able to overcome it. - Yes.
I also don't think it's a worry.
I thought she was cool,
but it's a worry if her habit affects her health.
The entire family is suffering...
because of So Young's mother-in-law's game addiction.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
- In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - In 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- All right. - Time's up.
Please say a few words to your family.
Listening to other people on the show...
I knew I had a problem,
but I learned one again that I should change.
I will cut back on game.
To whom do you feel the most apologetic?
- My husband. - I see.
- Hold his hands. - Ma'am.
- Hold his hands. - That's right.
It's the first time in a long while.
(Don't let go of his hand.)
If she cuts back on game,
we will live happily.
Sir, kiss her on the cheek.
Come on.
(Embarrassed)
(Kissing)
- She shielded her face. - What a lovely sight!
Let's see how many votes the worry got.
Show us the result.
"A Daughter-In-Law's Disclosure".
("A Daughter-In-Law's Disclosure")
- The winning score is 152. - That's right.
Will it be the same score?
162?
132.
(132 votes)
Ma'am.
- The title is "The Ruinous Love". - I like the title.
Hello, I am a pretty woman in my 20s who is worried...
about my boyfriend I am planning to marry.
(She is a pretty woman.)
I decided to marry my boyfriend...
because he is a nice man,
but I am beginning to have second thoughts.
"Young man, I don't have enough money for my bus fare."
"Would you lend me 10 dollars?"
You are good at playing a middle-aged man.
"Really? Sure."
- "You can take all of my money." - What?
He gave a stranger...
all of his money.
Then he walked an hour to get home...
because he didn't have any money.
(He walked an hour to get home.)
"We would like to order."
"Please give us two noodles, tangsuyuk,"
"and meat dumplings."
"Why are you ordering so much for the two of us?"
"If we order only two dishes, they won't make much money."
- Whenever he meets his friends, - He must be rich.
- he pays for everything. - He must be rich.
He even gives them money for taxi.
The cash must be the problem.
- It must be. - "Honey,"
"let's start saving up since we are getting married."
"If you don't understand this,"
"you are a strange person, honey."
That gives me goosebumps.
Do you want me to give you real goosebumps?
No, it's okay.
We are getting married soon, and I am worried.
Please help us.
Is he a People Pleaser?
To his friends, he's a good man.
- But when he's your man, - My family.
your son, or your spouse,
- it's really frustrating. - It's tough.
MAMAMOO, how would you feel if your boyfriend was like him?
Actually, my dad is...
Is he like that?
He works hard to grow rice and to raise chickens.
He always works diligently.
After working so hard,
- he gives it out to everyone. - He gives it out to everyone.
It really frustrated me when I was little.
His hands were all hurt,
and he lost his toenails.
I can understand him better now.
But I want him to be more mindful about his health.
- I want that. - He's a warm-hearted man.
In the past, a lot of people used to do that.
At first, she liked him for being so good-hearted.
But now that they're getting married, it worries her.
Let's bring her in. Please come on out.
Please come on out.
(Who is worried about her People-Pleasing boyfriend?)
There she is.
(Welcome.)
Welcome.
When a female guest comes down the slide,
a male celebrity guest always helps her get up.
I apologize that it was...
Jung Jae Yong today.
(We are sorry that it was Jae Yong.)
(It's all right.)
Are you seriously thinking of marrying him?
Yes. We've been dating for two years.
We are planning to get married next year.
But my boyfriend is so generous to other people.
And it's getting worse as time goes by.
I am seriously worried...
if I can marry him. That's why I came here.
It's good that you're here. You need to address this before the marriage.
How generous is he?
He was walking on a street, and a man asked to lend him money.
He said he didn't have any money to ride a bus.
My boyfriend only had 10 dollars at the time,
and he gave it to the man. After that, he didn't have money,
so he walked for an hour.
I'll tell you how overly considerate he is.
We were on our way to our friend's wedding.
We were running a little bit late, so we had to hurry.
I felt really worried, so I told him we should hurry.
On the way, this truck driver...
blocked the road and got off the truck to smoke.
If my boyfriend told him to move the truck...
because we have to go, he could've moved the truck.
He hesitated for a while...
and said there was no need for us to ask him that.
He said we should just take a detour.
- But you were running late. - Yes, we were running late.
He wasn't doing something good. He was just smoking.
That's exactly what I thought. We were in a hurry.
What happened then?
- We were late. - But if he had tattoos...
(Then it's better to take a detour.)
- He could've had tattoos. - Was he not a scary man?
He wasn't. And that really upset me.
- And? - Whenever we go shopping,
we want to get a discount whenever something is expensive.
We look for cheaper alternatives.
But my boyfriend tells me to just buy it.
When I ask him why he says so,
he says they need to make a living too.
He worries about other people making a living.
They are far better off than him though.
- So... - They are far better off than him.
(He's worried about strange things.)
Whenever he meets his friends, he pays for everything.
It's understandable if they are his friends.
But even when he's with my friends,
he pays for everything.
He even pays for my friends' taxies.
He pays for everything when you meet with your friends?
- Yes. - Isn't that nice of him though?
It's nice for the first few times. But he always does it.
He can't afford it, and I am worried about him.
- Right. - Do the friends take his money?
Even if they refuse it, he pays the driver.
He sounds like Santa Claus.
- Isn't he the nicest man? - He sounds like Santa.
In the game world, he's equivalent to events.
He is.
(This man is like events.)
Did you come here to brag about him?
Why did you take it here when you could just talk to him?
I told him many times to fix his habit.
But every time, he thinks I am the strange one.
And when he criticizes me, he says it in a nicest manner.
"You're a strange person if you keep doing that."
- That's how he talks. - "You're a strange person."
- But... - You must've heard it many times.
I heard it many times. I am always the bad person.
- Yes. That's what happens. - "You are a bad person."
Why don't you call your boyfriend?
Honey.
Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
I want to tell him about the car I really like.
Right.
I want a building.
Your girlfriend came out here to talk about her worry.
What do you think about it?
When she mentioned it, I said she'd be criticized for it...
and that we shouldn't come here.
- You thought she'd be criticized. - I didn't do anything bad.
I didn't steal or get into a fight while being drunk.
I didn't do any of that. I just want to be a good man.
I can't understand why she would see that as a problem.
No, you are a strange person.
How did you say that line?
"If you keep doing this, you are a strange person."
That's bad, darling.
(He's very sweet.)
Excuse me. That's Seoul accent.
(He originally speaks with a provincial accent.)
"You are a strange person."
That's what we expected.
Do you have a hard time neglecting the unfortunate people?
My mother always told me that I have to help the less fortunate.
It's not a big amount, but my mother always supports UNICEF.
And I can't neglect abandoned dogs.
- He's a good man. - In the back of her shop,
Mom raises about 10 abandoned dogs.
It's amazing that you help people who need help.
But why do you treat your friends all the time?
They don't need help.
- Isn't that being boastful? - It's being boastful.
It's not being boastful.
Men are like that.
When you hang out with your girlfriend's friends...
I rarely get time off work.
So I can't hang out with them too often.
When I do hang out with them,
I want to show them...
that she's dating a good man.
- You're doing it on purpose. - All right.
Treating them is okay.
But you don't have to pay for their taxies.
Are her friends all poor?
They are not.
I am sure you guys are the same as me.
- How so? - How?
- What do you mean? - You are mistaken.
What did we do?
"You pay this much. You pay this much."
- You can't do that. - You can't do that as a man.
- Right. - It looks really bad.
- You can take turns. - I just...
offer to pay.
It just looks better.
But you pay every time.
- It must happen frequently. - It's not every time.
But I do pay frequently.
- How many times out of 10? - Very often.
8 times out of 10.
(He pays 8 times out of 10 times.)
- You always pay. - You always pay.
If they are your girlfriend's friends, is it 10 out of 10?
When I meet with my girlfriend's friends, I always pay.
(He always pays.)
- When you go out, - Why would he do that?
how much do you spend on average?
It's not that much. It's about 100 to 150 dollars.
- What do you think? - It's fine if it's a few times.
But he pays all the time. He just started a shop,
and he's got a lot of debts.
He's struggling.
We keep delaying our wedding because of that,
even though I want to get married sooner.
- Because of a financial problem? - Yes.
One day, this happened. My friend brought her boyfriend.
And my boyfriend was worried about his driver fee.
My friend's boyfriend has a job and earns money.
- He would be offended. - He would be.
He thought my boyfriend was looking down on him.
My boyfriend's intention was good, but he was offended.
- That's understandable. - Did he treat everyone again?
Yes. We met them because my friend wanted...
to introduce her boyfriend to us.
- So he could've paid. - Right.
But my boyfriend paid. I asked him why he did that,
and he said my friend's boyfriend was going to spend a lot on driver.
He said he has to pay because they're in his town.
I got so upset that day that I sent a letter here.
- That's what happened. - You couldn't bear it anymore.
It seems like it's become his habit.
When I eat with people, I eat a lot.
But it's true. I get really sorry,
so I usually pay.
- You have to pay for that. - Right.
That's why I pay when I drink with people.
I am the same.
You should pay at least half.
But even when you treat people, sometimes you get embarrassed.
I was once in a barbecue restaurant with some friends.
And I saw Kim Shin Young and her stylist.
I ran into them at the checkout counter. "Hello, Dong Yeob."
"Hello, Shin Young. Are you checking out?"
I took her bill...
and insisted to pay her bill. "No, it's okay."
"I will pay for it." But she kept refusing.
I said, "I will pay. You should go."
It turned out they had two bowls of doenjang jjigae.
It was only 16 dollars.
But you acted as if you were doing her a big favor.
I felt so embarrassed. They didn't eat barbecue.
He must've seen them eating doenjang jjigae.
That happened once.
- Should we talk to your friends? - Yes.
Hello.
- Hello. - Hello.
She must be one of her friends she hangs out with.
You must be so happy...
when your friend's boyfriend tags along. He treats you.
At first, it was really nice. Now, I feel so pressured.
- You feel pressured. - Why?
We have a group of friends.
There are four of us,
and when we meet, we bring our boyfriend...
- or husband too. - That's eight.
Even if there are more of us,
- Does he still pay? - he always...
- pays for everything. - Even when there are other men?
Yes. Usually you collect money from group members to pay for things.
But we never needed that.
(Nobody had to pay anything.)
Have you ever received money for taxi from him?
- He always gives me money for taxi. - He must always give her money.
He gives every person 20 dollars.
20 dollars?
If you hire a driver, he pays for that too.
If my boyfriend does that,
I would really hate it.
- Right. - Let's talk to his friend.
He's a loyal friend. Once you become his close friend,
he gives you everything. When you say you're out of money,
even if you don't ask,
he voluntarily lends you money.
But sometimes, there are people who take advantage...
of that situation.
- And that worries me as his friend. - Right.
(As a friend, he's very worried.)
Next to him is his employee.
- Is he a part-time employee? - His part-time employee is here.
Hello.
Hello, I am...
- He's cute. - his part-time employee.
I have more good things to say about him.
When it's time to close the shop,
he tells me to turn on the grill.
He grills me meat.
When he doesn't do that, he orders fried chicken or pizza.
And does he give you money for taxi when you go home?
He drives me home.
He drives you home?
He's a great boss.
When it's a holiday, he gives me special bonus.
For a part-time employee,
- He's great. - he's a great boss.
- You heard his girlfriend's story. - Yes.
If you were in her place, how would you feel?
I would be quite worried.
When customers come, he's overly generous to them.
- Is he? - I'm sure he is.
When a customer says he wants a bigger sized meal,
because we don't have such a thing,
he just serves a more generous portion.
- When his friends come, - Does he give free food?
he serves as much food as plates can hold.
(He packs the plates.)
So do you get a lot of customers?
Yes, we get a lot of customers, and it's killing me.
That's what's bad about this job.
That's a worry. Come down here.
Since he said there are a lot of customers, I'm curious.
When you become generous,
don't some people take it for granted?
- Some do. - You can see that.
- There are some people like that. - Are there?
Sometimes it bothers me.
But I started doing business when I was young.
So when my friends were studying in college,
I was making money.
I didn't like the fact that my friends weren't...
getting together because they couldn't afford to go out.
That's why I offered to pay.
And I always treated them.
Even if my friends earn more,
I can't ask them to pay now, because that makes me look petty.
- No. No. - No, you have to demand it.
That's only fair.
You've done so much for them.
But it's as if I've been treating them to get treated in return.
That's not it.
(It's frustrating.)
What do you think? Does you spend...
for himself?
What makes me the saddest is that he doesn't spend for himself.
He doesn't buy clothes.
My friends all know this too.
They all must know.
There's an outfit...
he always wears on a special day.
And that outfit is about 4 to 5 years old.
And he's wearing it right now.
- Is that it? - Is that it?
- That's his special outfit. - How is that special?
He wore it to go on TV.
The gradation is amazing.
(It sucks you in.)
That gradation is good.
I heard it used to be a monotone sweater.
But after many years, the gradation formed.
- It's gotten all fluffy. - After all the years.
Why is that outfit special?
4 to 5 years ago, he paid around 300 dollars...
for that knitwear.
When he buys something expensive,
he wears it until there's a hole.
That's his personality.
He's been wearing that sweater even before we started dating.
When we started dating, he wore that sweater...
to meet my friends, my parents,
and even to first birthday parties.
- Whenever something important... - His friends...
must think he only owns one outfit.
I know. He wears that sweater, those pants,
and those shoes. That's a set.
It's his uniform.
He wears those pants and those shoes.
It's his uniform.
- Then... - This is so funny.
even if your friends meet casually,
when they see him wearing that, they must go, "It's a special day."
"Today must be a special day."
Right?
(He becomes embarrassed.)
One time, we had a lunch date.
- He was walking from a distance. - You dressed nicely.
He was wearing a white T-shirt,
and the area around his shoulder was stained.
I wondered what it was.
And it turned out the shirt was covered in ink stains.
But he was still wearing it.
I asked him, "What are you wearing, honey?"
"I found out this when I came out."
"I washed it with coloured clothes,"
"and it got stained."
I told him he should get changed.
And he said, "Are you ashamed of me?"
You should've told him that you were.
- You should've told him the truth. - I told him...
that people will criticize him.
- He didn't... - They might think he's an artist.
get changed until the end. He suddenly...
said we should go to an expensive buffet.
- He should've gotten dressed. - He said...
we should go there.
I said he couldn't go there in that outfit, but he insisted.
So we ended up going there.
People looked at us...
while we were eating.
You should've seen the stains.
No. I rarely look in the mirror.
So I didn't know. I found out only when I left home.
She kept saying she would buy me clothes.
And that offended me.
So I thought I'd show her.
I wanted to show her that what I wear didn't matter.
- What matters then? - What matters is...
that I can afford to buy her an expensive meal.
So I took her to...
- an expensive buffet. - He loves treating people food.
- You are so extreme. - I know.
You can dress nicely,
and take turns to treat your friends.
You dress poorly and show off your money.
That's not nice.
"I am dressed poorly, but I have money."
Hearing his story makes me realize this.
He says he doesn't care about what other people think.
But it seems like he actually cares a lot...
about what other people think of him.
When you meet with your friends,
although they make more than you, you still treat them.
When you meet with your girlfriend's friends,
even if their boyfriends are there too,
you still pay to show them who you are.
You behave like that because you are...
very conscious about people's opinions.
I think being generous makes you more stressed.
When I was little, my family was quite well-off.
My family was quite wealthy. When I became an adult,
my family started to struggle. I had to see my friends...
graduating from good schools and having good jobs...
when I was still just running a restaurant.
I felt like I was being stagnant. I felt ashamed of myself.
I wanted to show them that although they have a better job,
I am working hard and I am living well too.
I wanted to show them that I am competent too.
- Right. - It's my ego.
(He wants to show his friends that he can afford it.)
When you care so much about other people,
you sometimes don't get to take care of...
your loved ones.
There were many incidents.
One time, my feet hurt so much because of my shoes.
I asked him if we could take a taxi.
Hesitating, he asked me...
if we could walk a little longer.
I asked him why we couldn't get on a taxi when my feet hurt.
And he said the driver would hate it...
if we get on a taxi to travel a short distance.
And it really made me sad. My feet hurt so much.
You could've carried her.
What else?
We never go on a date by ourselves.
After my work,
I went to his restaurant. Even if I was sleepy, I waited.
I waited so that we could go watch a late night movie.
But he suddenly said his cousin also wanted to...
watch a movie and asked if he could come along.
So I said it was okay.
But his mother came too.
- And it was showing at late night? - Yes.
When she sat down, his mother was there.
When she was already there, he said this to me.
"If you don't like it, we can go by ourselves."
How can I say that when everyone is there?
(How could he say she didn't like it?)
Why are you so inconsiderate?
- That would make you sad. - It's fine...
if it happened only once or twice. But it happened many times.
(It happened many times.)
I don't have much time because of my work.
So if I spend time with everyone at the same time,
I won't have to worry about it.
But being on a date is different.
When you do that, you don't satisfy anyone.
You become sorry to everyone.
You think you've done your duty to everyone.
- But everyone felt uncomfortable. - Right.
(Your kindness can actually makes someone uncomfortable.)
Because she's yours, and she loves you,
do you think she has to understand you, whatever you do?
Yes. I try my best to make sure...
that she doesn't fall behind others.
When there are other people around,
I hope she will understand me...
even if I take care of others more.
You know you are not acting up to your own words, right?
She must've been in so much pain when she asked to get on a cab.
Think about it.
If you thought a little harder,
you could've come up with an idea to pay him extra.
You could think like that.
You didn't consider situation her at all.
- But that's... - You wanted to just take the pain.
If she was in a lot of pain,
I would've carried her or taken her to a hospital.
- Don't be so extreme. - That's...
She said she was in pain.
- She said it. - Do you have to see her bone?
This is what upsets me.
You said you are about to get married.
Before getting married,
what worries you the most?
What worries me the most is...
that he thinks everything he does...
is good and right.
He keeps asking me to understand him.
When we get married,
- it's only going to get worse. - It's going to get worse.
He's going to want to be more generous to other people.
When he keeps doing that, it will be too tough for me.
We hope it will never happen.
What would you do if she wouldn't marry you...
if you keep acting however you want...
without discussing things with her?
(She's curious.)
Then I will tell her to meet someone good.
- What? - What?
I am just joking.
What kind of a joke is that?
How can you say such a cruel joke?
It's a joke.
That's not funny.
I don't have much,
but I still try to be generous to other people.
That's why she is worried.
But it will be fine when I become better off.
Your wife has to be happy first...
before you take care of the others.
How can you be nice to other people when your woman isn't happy?
It might be too extreme.
Why don't you let her be in charge of the finances?
(Let her manage the finances.)
- Just get an allowance. - Just let her manage it.
- I agree. - You should do that.
It's inconvenient at first,
but it's better for you to leave it up to her.
It's better for your wife as well.
Will you put her in charge of finance when you get married?
I'll probably be in a situation where I have to pay,
- so it's not easy. - But you can't control it.
I'll try to control it from now on.
When you're with friends...
He hates the fact he can't pay.
Do you feel proud...
- when you pay for them? - Yes.
Your friends would want to feel the same.
- Right? - Probably.
You should think about it.
You've come this far, Chae Won.
Yes.
- Shall I say something? - Yes.
It's good that you share, but if you want to get married,
I hope you save up.
Rather than caring about what other people think,
I hope you care about yourself more.
Your wife will be in agony alone because you're nice outside.
(Don't make your future wife a bad person.)
Let's start with MAMAMOO.
Do you think it's a worry?
He's so kind.
I personally think dating and marriage...
is about consideration, not coercion.
I think he should care about his girlfriend he loves...
- before other people. - Okay.
Whee In.
Pardon?
I think it's a worry.
She couldn't remember her name, so she murmured it.
(I'm sorry, Whee In.)
I think it's a worry.
He needs to consider what his priority is.
- That's why you think it's a worry. - Hwa Sa.
I don't think it's a worry.
If he puts down a bit,
he'll be happy with his girlfriend.
Now that I think in her position,
I'm sure it's a worry.
It's not a problem if he lives alone.
- Right. - He's kind and generous.
Only if he lives alone.
But if they're going to get married, and consider their future,
- it could be a big problem. - Right.
- It's possible. - It's not a problem...
- if he lives alone. - No.
Get ready.
If you think it's a worry, press it now.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop. - Stop.
It's mostly women in the audience.
Someone was pressing as if she was playing a game.
- Say something to your girlfriend. - Directly.
I'm sorry for making you come all the way here.
I won't be able to make you the best,
but I won't make people blame you.
I will make you look like a nice person.
I love you.
No.
(He still cares about what other people think.)
You can't just finish it like this.
She's not asking you to make more money and do something for her.
There are things your girlfriend wants right now.
What do you think you need to do for your girlfriend right now?
- Tell me. - What do you have to fix?
When I go back home, I'll buy clothes first.
No one told you to buy clothes.
I know.
- It's upsetting. - It's ridiculous.
- Listen. - No one told you to buy clothes.
We asked what your girlfriend wants.
That will make people blame your girlfriend.
We can't end like this.
The first thing he's going to do is buying clothes.
- You said you own a restaurant. - Yes.
Then you buy green onions and stuff.
What if the seller...
brought old green onions?
Do you still accept it because you feel bad?
- Yes. - You still use it.
- Yes. - Then what about the customers?
You have no consideration for your customers.
What about the customers?
That's what you're doing right now.
(That's what you've been doing to your girlfriend.)
- Do you understand me? - Yes.
You think you're being nice,
but someone is suffering from it in the back.
That is your girlfriend.
(He needs to think one more time!)
Okay.
Your customers might misunderstand.
Say you only buy fresh green onions.
- Pretend I sell vegetables. - She's here.
- Goodness. - She brought old vegetables.
Sir. I'm in a difficult situation.
It's old, but buy it for me.
It doesn't look good. I only use fresh vegetables.
You're a nice guy. I'm trying to make a living.
- I have eight kids? - What's wrong, Honey?
Buy this for us.
- Buy this for us. - Please.
Buy this for us please.
They're swindlers.
No? I knew he was like that.
(He said no successfully.)
Tell her what you can promise.
You made a hard way to be here.
Chae Won. I'll consider you as my first priority from now on.
I'll think about you more than anyone else.
I'll try my best. I won't be stubborn.
- He's cute. - He is.
I'm wearing high heels. My feet hurt. Let's take a cab.
Then I'll get a cab right away, Chae Won.
- Yes. - Yes.
- Let's check the result. - I hope that day comes.
(We wish the best for them.)
Show us the result for "The Ruinous Love".
(The result)
If it's 154, they become the first.
(Will they be able to win the gamer mother-in-law?)
- 154? - It won't be.
154!
Yes.
We have many women today. They all voted for it.
It's called "Live Your Life As You Want".
Hello. I'm a housewife in my 30s with 3 sons.
I have one more son.
I'm sure you know who.
He's my 45-year-old husband.
Ring ring.
Honey. I'm out of fuel. What do I do?
- What? Fill up. - Then you need gas.
- Right. - Where should I go for gas?
- What? - How much gas? 30 dollars? 50?
Honey. Should I pay cash or credit card?
He's worse than my youngest seven-year-old son.
He even asks what he should wear.
White shirt? Yellow shirt?
Should I take the subway or drive?
Answer me please.
I'm sick of it.
This happened once. Hello. I'm calling from insurance.
Are you the wife of Song Gui Chul?
I contacted him, but he said he doesn't know anything.
He told me to call you.
Sometimes he even calls me Mom.
- "Mom." - He lived seven more years than me.
Please get me out of the agony of questions.
"Agony of questions."
Let's meet our guest. Please come out.
(Who's worried about her husband asking for everything?)
(Lee Hyo Jung)
Jae Yong. Please escort her.
Does your husband ask for everything?
Yes. My husband turned 45 this year.
He's in charge of sending our kids to school.
"Which pants should I make them wear? What about T-shirts?"
"Does this colour look good on him? Should he wear boots or sneakers?"
That's what he asks. He has to go to work too.
Then he sends me a picture of...
a reflection of what he's wearing.
He asks me how he looks, and if I say something's weird,
he gets changes and sends me a picture again.
He keeps asking...
- He doesn't leave. - until I say it's okay.
When men think they don't have a sense of fashion,
it's okay to ask their wives for advice.
That's not all. He asks me every morning.
"Should I take the subway? Should I drive?"
He starts as soon as the gas light is on.
"What do I do? The gas light is on."
I tell him to get gas.
"Which gas station should I use?"
Why do you respond to each question?
You can ignore him.
He doesn't stop until I respond.
- What? - He keeps asking...
- if you don't answer? - Yes.
Let's see how much he asks on their messenger.
(Here's the message they shared.)
- "Is it weird?" - What is that?
(He asks about his fashion before going to work.)
What is that?
I think he enjoys it.
I'm sure he does.
He knows that it's weird.
He said, "Is it weird?"
(The guest's response to the question)
- Look. - What is that?
You're married.
You're a married couple for sure.
That bugged me too.
Is there more?
(Open the lid.)
- Turn on the power. - "Open the lid."
- "Press this." - "How do I use the printer?"
"Press this."
Just press the buttons.
(He even asks about the son's homework.)
He says he doesn't know for everything.
- "Measure with the protractor." - He even asks about homework.
"Ji Yul knows how to do it."
(He still asks for help.)
(It must be tiring.)
"What should I eat for dinner? When are you coming? Did you eat?"
- "Let's have dinner." - "Respond."
(He's clingy.)
When did this begin?
My husband teaches samulnori.
He was the teacher, and I was the student.
You learned something else other than samulnori.
You learned love.
- I respected him. - Right.
He probably did the same, but I didn't notice it back then.
- Right. - Because you were blinded by love.
Yes. Because he asks me too many questions,
people call us Foolish Ondal and Princess Pyeonggang.
That's what people call us.
Let's meet him. Hello.
Hello.
Why would you ask if you should take the subway or drive?
I'm very careful.
That's why.
I also have night blindness.
- I can't see well at night. - I see.
It costs money for a chauffeur service.
- Then just take the subway. - He's right.
- You're aware of it. - Make the decision yourself.
- When I ask her, - Does it make you feel better?
she gives me a wise answer.
Why do you ask her about your fashion?
She's better than me.
I was criticized for dressing up badly.
Since then, I'm being careful.
When was that exactly?
He wears white T-shirt, white pants, white socks, and white sneakers.
(Fashion terror)
Or...
he wears one brand from head to toe.
- He did that once. - He dressed himself in white.
He dressed all in white.
I understand why you asked your wife about fashion.
"Should I get some gas?"
(When the low fuel light is on)
"How much should I get?" That is a different matter.
- Like I said before, I am careful. - Careful?
Getting gas has nothing to do with being careful.
You ask her whether you should get 30 or 50 dollars' worth.
I don't move on...
unless I am completely certain.
When we got invited to the show,
the scriptwriter asked him...
if he has any acquaintances to bring.
He told the scriptwriter, "Please talk to my wife about it."
He made me decide.
- It's his acquaintances. - I know.
Why did you make you wife decide on a matter about your acquaintances?
Is it because you are careful?
Careful!
I think I am indecisive.
You finally admit the truth.
(He finally admits the truth.)
What else does he push onto you?
When he gets an offer to perform somewhere,
he has to send a promotional video and a profile of the team.
He mutters,
"What should I do? I need to turn in those materials."
"I can't perform if I don't."
- He wants you to hear him. - Yes.
He mutters for an hour.
(He mutters for an hour.)
- Does he do that for an hour? - Yes.
What does he do while you do his work?
Even though I have no experience in making videos,
I look up information and do my best.
My husband doesn't even try.
He lies on his bed and plays games.
(He only plays games.)
He makes his wife do all the work.
- Seriously. - Why do you do that to your wife?
I am not good with computers.
- She isn't either, but she tries. - She said...
she looks up information.
She is still better...
(My wife is good at it.)
than me.
Your wife is doing your work.
Then you could do your wife's work.
For an example, you could do the dishes...
- during that time. - You play games.
I am good at other things.
- Like what? - I cook,
clean, and do the laundry.
- He helps you with housework. - He helps you a lot.
He scolds me a lot...
- because I am lacking. - What?
If I leave the smallest piece of an eggshell or onion skin...
with the food waste,
he goes, "How many times do I have to tell you..."
"that these don't go into the food waste?"
Today, he yelled at me for not rinsing the eggshell.
Does he rinse the eggshell before throwing it out?
He does.
- Do you rinse the eggshell? - Why would you rinse it?
- Do you really do that? - I throw it away as it is.
Who rinses the eggshell before throwing it out?
- I want to know. - Why would you rinse it?
Ever since I was little, I lived away from my family.
I want the trash to be tidy.
I can't believe he rinses eggshell...
- before throwing it away. - I must ask,
why did you live away from your family?
My mother left home when I was seven years old...
and my father was an alcoholic.
He drank a lot and got violent.
I always had to be on my toes.
When I used chopsticks the wrong way,
I got scolded.
If my knees were apart when I stood at attention,
he beat me up.
When I was in middle school, I ran away from Dad...
and moved to Seoul.
I was walking around Cheongnyangni...
when I met a student who went to Korea University.
I joined the farmer's music club...
and learned how to play janggu.
- You met a nice friend. - That's how I learned janggu...
- and made friends. - That student was a good person.
I found my way.
It seems like your childhood trauma...
makes you ask questions to your wife...
- to avoid making a mistake. - That's right.
Since I learned janggu all my life,
I can play it with confidence.
I get scared about everything else.
- It's understandable. - I am not good...
at trying new things.
I am very careful.
Don't you understand...
where he is coming from?
I try my best to help him.
Before we got married, he said that his friends at Korea University...
helped him take the GED test.
I learned later he only graduated from an elementary school.
He couldn't fill the spaces in job applications.
I helped him take the GED test...
and got him enrolled at a university, recently.
That's incredible.
(He has a good wife.)
He is like her son.
- He is like her son. - Seriously.
She really looked after him...
- as a mom would her son. - Seriously.
- That's cool. - That's cool.
It's not like everyone has tried everything.
There is a first time for everything.
However, when my husband is given a task,
he always says, "I can't do it. It's hard. I can't do it."
Recently, he was offered a teaching position.
Since I was busy with work and the children,
I couldn't write his job application.
In the end, he didn't send in his job application...
and failed to get the teaching position.
- My goodness. - You are good...
at cooking and cleaning...
because you have done them before.
The same thing goes for samulnori.
You will learn if you don't rely on your wife,
but you aren't doing that.
Now that she became family,
I ask her more questions.
Since I am comfortable around her,
I don't try hard.
In that case, what can you do confidently...
without asking your wife?
I can play janggu.
- That's right. - Let's see how good he is.
Let's see it.
Sounds great.
(Show us your janggu skills.)
(He has an expert's touch.)
He is adjusting the strings.
(He starts confidently.)
His facial expression remains the same.
(Let's go!)
(He picks up the speed.)
(This is what made her...)
(fall for him.)
(He is full of confidence and passion.)
(He is cool and talented.)
(That was fun.)
That was fun.
(He should do other things this way.)
That's right.
You must have practiced a lot at home.
We are moved,
but the children's faces are expressionless.
(Expressionless and disinterested)
Seriously.
- The one in the middle is thinking, - They are not reacting in any way.
"There goes Dad again."
Your pupils are here with you.
Please give her the microphone.
(A pupil of 3 years, a pupil of 19 years)
Did you know that he asks his wife...
about everything?
He is decisive in the practice room.
Since he listens to his pupils,
I thought he was considerate.
(He is a teacher who is considerate and warm-hearted.)
- I didn't know. - To pupils,
he is a good teacher who listens...
to his students.
He was actually asking them questions.
(He was actually asking them questions.)
The pupil of 19 years must know more about him.
- No. - He didn't know for 19 years.
I was surprised to hear it.
As you can see, he looks pure.
He is pure.
He is considerate.
When were you the most thankful to him...
during the 19 years?
At the age of 19, I moved to Seoul from the countryside...
and began to receive lessons from him.
It wasn't an easy transition...
because I was in high school.
He said, "Sleep at my place if you have nowhere to go."
He always brought me along...
to his lectures...
so that I could practice...
- while he gave his lectures. - He is decisive in these matters.
- He is your saviour. - Yes.
When we hear from his pupils,
he is a good man.
After I gave birth to my first child,
we lived in a small house.
Students come from the countryside to learn from my husband a lot.
He would tell them,
"Sleep at my place."
Two girls slept and ate at our place...
at one point.
And food cost a lot of money.
When I talked to my husband, he said, "It can't be helped."
- "They are in a tight spot." - He is too nice.
He didn't help me financially.
Then, I had to go out...
- and work. - That's right.
When my first child was five months old,
I sent him to a daycare center and worked.
- When he was five months old? - Yes.
With my second child, I worked until three days before due date.
(It's hard on Hyo Jung.)
He should have asked you.
- "There are these girls." - He didn't ask her about this.
He should have asked you.
I knew it would be hard on my wife,
but I want to help...
those in need...
even if it means sacrificing a room at our place.
- It's something he has to do... - That's right.
because he struggled a lot when he was younger.
Meeting a good person helped him out a lot.
Because he knows that,
- he has to give a helping hand... - He can't turn away.
without asking his wife.
I think it's heartwarming that...
you pass down your gratitude to your pupils.
However, it must have been hard on your wife.
I bet he is a good father to his sons.
- Is he? - No.
He isn't nice to his sons,
but his pupils.
- Really? - When I buy...
meat and vegetables for the children,
he steals them...
- for his pupils. - He steals them.
Sometimes, he steals money from my wallet...
to buy them food.
On free days, most fathers...
take their children to cool places or a playground...
to push them on swings.
On his free day, my husband lies down on the bed.
He becomes one with the bed.
Yes. We go camping often.
Usually, husbands look into equipment like tents.
- You also do all that? - But my husband doesn't.
I set up a tent when we go camping.
- I play with the kids. - She even sets up a tent?
Does your husband not help you with that?
No, he doesn't. After I finish setting up a tent,
he organizes cooking tools.
- She can set up a tent if she can. - She even sets up a tent?
But why do you not set up a tent?
I mean, you're stronger than she is.
I haven't done anything like that before.
- Who has done it before? - But...
I'm sure your wife hadn't done it before either.
Also, it requires a lot of physical strength.
I teach students on weekends,
so I couldn't go camping with them many times.
Since she went camping more than I did, she has more experience.
(It's because you never help me!)
- I understand that. - Let's meet the kids.
- Hi. - They're so cute.
- The youngest boy looks tired. - Hold the mic more closely. Hi.
Please introduce yourself.
I'm Song Ji Yul, and I'm 12.
Welcome.
I'm Song Seung Yun, and I'm nine.
- Hi. - The youngest son.
Hello. I'm Song Eun Chan, and I'm seven.
(They're so cute.)
- Give the mic to your brother. - His ears turned red.
Do you remember the time when you went camping with your dad?
He only stayed there for one day.
- Did he leave early? - Yes.
Why?
I don't know.
How many days were you planning to stay there?
Three days.
It was supposed to be a three-day trip.
- He left in one day. - That's right.
- You just heard your mom, right? - Yes.
Do you understand why your mom is worried?
Yes, I do. He asks Mom if he should wear an outfit with buttons or...
An outfit with buttons?
Or a different type of clothes.
Do you want him to stop asking questions to your mom?
Yes, it's annoying to my mom, so I feel...
- Your mom looks tired? - Yes.
Do you have anything to say to your dad?
I want him to play with us at the playground.
Hasn't your dad played with you, not once?
He played with us once, at least.
Just once?
- Once in nine years of your life? - Once?
- Only once? - Once in nine years.
What about you, Eun Chan?
- Eun Chan. - He looks so sleepy.
- He's... - He's too sleepy.
- My gosh. - He doesn't even want to talk.
- He doesn't even want to talk. - Give the mic to her...
Please hold the mic for him.
Eun Chan, are you craving something?
- He doesn't want to talk. - Right.
How about some cookies?
(Shaking his head)
Do you prefer your mom or dad?
Do you hate both of them?
- I see. - My goodness.
(Thank you for your honest answer.)
Why did you leave early when you planned to stay for three days?
- I have a lot of heat in my body. - Heat?
We put an electric heating mat in the tent to keep warm.
It was a little stuffy in the tent.
You left because it was too hot for you?
Even so, how could you leave your family there?
I also hate bugs.
(Dad, come on.)
Even your kids didn't complain about that.
So you left because of the heating mat and bugs?
He kept grumbling.
I pretended I didn't hear it and kept playing with the kids.
He said, "I'll take a nap at home while enjoying air-conditioning."
He didn't leave because of work.
But I'm sure...
- He's unbelievable. - you tried to stop him.
I said the kids would be disappointed,
- but he left anyway. - Why did you break your promise?
You break your promises as you want.
I don't have any memories with my parents in my childhood.
I think that's why I'm not good at it.
All the more reason to make an effort.
- You have to try to be better. - Right.
Think about it. What if your kids become like you?
If you don't even try because you're not good at it,
your kids will become a dad like you.
Has he ever been helpful when you needed someone to rely on?
When Ji Yul was in third grade, his classmate pushed him...
during the class, and so he fell.
His front tooth was broken because of that.
I went to a meeting with the parents of his classmate.
I was bold enough to go there alone,
but both of his classmate's parents came.
They told me to apologize to them instead of apologizing to me.
("Apologize to us.")
- Who? - But their kid pushed Ji Yul.
I know. They told me to apologize to them...
and yelled at me so loudly.
- That's ridiculous. - I was scared as a man yelled.
I wished there had been someone to help me.
But I went there alone, so there was no one to help me.
I felt so bad for myself. I wanted to cry.
He's never been reliable.
- In fact... - Jae Yong asked her...
if her husband had ever been...
helpful and reliable,
but she told us the worst incident.
I mean, seriously. Right?
How did it go?
- So... - I'm sure it's not the end.
We couldn't come to an agreement,
so we had to file a lawsuit.
My husband said one of his acquaintances is a lawyer.
- I wanted him to look into it. - Right.
But he only gave me the lawyer's number.
- "Call this lawyer." - The lawyer was his acquaintance,
- but he only gave you the number? - Yes, he made me make a call.
We also needed to get documents for the lawsuit.
When I didn't have time to get a document...
and asked him to do it for me,
he said, "I don't even know where to go. You know I'm not good at it."
He didn't do that in the end.
Shouldn't you have worked with her in a situation like that?
Since my wife is a wise person, I believed she'd do it well.
I also pursue peace and non-violence.
I thought it would make the situation worse...
if I raise my voice. I wanted it to be resolved quietly.
When your wife said she was afraid when the other dad yelled at her,
you should've sided with her...
and comforted her.
I know that, but I think I'm not used to doing that.
Comforting other people...
- Comforting others. - It's not easy for me to do.
You don't do things just because you're not used to them.
Don't you think that's too selfish?
You were supposed to be furious.
Even if you pursue peace,
you should've tried to resolve the problem, but you stayed back.
You never stepped forward.
When it's necessary,
you must be completely on her side, so she can feel safe.
(You have to do your best to be someone your family can rely on.)
I'm glad you came on the show.
Your wife has so much resentment pent up inside.
Your part as a dad will get even bigger...
as your sons will go through puberty.
You did a good job in maintaining your family until now.
- Go ahead. - I...
I am holding out.
- She's been so distressed. - Of course.
She's been very distressed.
I am...
(As the head of the family, wife, and mom,)
(she had to take care of everything.)
I'm putting up with all this to help him improve himself.
However, I can't rely on him when I go through a hard time,
so I have thought that I might give up on our marriage...
at some point.
Tell your husband what you have to say for the last time.
Call his name first.
My son.
Honey, from now on, I'll take only 10 questions...
in one day.
That's a lot.
- Only 10 questions. - How many did he ask before?
Our kids will grow up soon.
Soon, they won't even let us play with them.
I think we don't have much time before that happens.
So I want you to enjoy the time you can spend with our kids.
Jae Yong, do you think it's a worry?
There's a person similar to him among people I know.
I think it's a worry.
Who is your acquaintance who is similar to him?
It's Lee Ha Neul.
There aren't so many people around you.
There are times when you don't pay enough attention...
to the people around you that you cherish.
It seems that he needs to pay more attention to his family.
I think he's overly considerate in unnecessary situations.
I believe a problem like that...
can be fixed if he works with his wife.
Don't worry about your public image, and tell us your honest opinion.
Of course I criticized him inside my mind.
Whee In.
As a woman just like the guest,
I feel very upset.
I also think it's a worry.
If you think it's a worry, please press the button.
(What does the audience think?)
- 5, 4, 3, 2, 1. - 5, 4, 3, 2, 1.
- Stop. - Time's up.
Say a word to your wife.
I'll do my best to be a dad who plays with his kids.
I'll also try to become a reliable dad.
- Thank you. - Will you ask only 10 questions...
in a day as she asked you to?
I'll try not to ask her questions.
I'll talk to myself instead.
You shouldn't say it out loud.
Please show us the result.
(The result)
She got more than 100 votes.
Will it be 132 or 142?
- 152. - My gosh.
- Look at your wife. - She got 152 votes.
As a result, "The Ruinous Love" is this week's winner.
Congratulations!
The winner will receive a cash prize.
Congratulations.
Until the day we are all worry-free.
Hello will continue to counsel you.
- Thank you! - Thank you!
(Hello will continue to counsel you.)
("Up All Night" by Killagramz)